I have been on a radical change train. I wanted to get better and write about it. When I started reading Psycho-Cybernetics, I had no idea that I was going to be given homework on being better. While reading this book, the term “self-image psychology” came up quite a few times. This really surprised me because I had no Idea that it existed and I really feel like I should have known about this sooner.
About two chapters in, the author dives into the science behind creative visualization and how the machine that is our mind, uses this to make or break our daily experience. One thing he said that truly stuck with me is, “Instead of trying hard by conscious effort to do the thing by iron-jawed will power, and all the while worrying and picturing to yourself all the things that are likely to go wrong, you simply relax the strain, stop trying to ‘do it’ by strain and effort, picture to yourself the target you really want to hit, and let your creative success mechanism take over.”
Now, I have to admit that I hopped on the new-agey feel good, The Secret stuff when the it was poppin’ and everyone was making vision boards for their future self. One thing I never stayed consistent with was mentally giving my brain an ideal to work towards. I tried, and tried to be this person that I never thought I could be but, that’s just it. I never truly thought that I could be that person.
To me, The Secret kind of died out when everyone thought that we were “dialing-in” to the universe but somehow none of us could seem to buy it. That’s honestly where they lost me. However, I see the light with this creative visualization thing and well, honestly, what do I have to lose? I’ve struggled with self-esteem for so long, and if this is what it’s always going to be like, what’s the point?
The idea that I’m getting, is that you need to believe and see yourself in this new position that you want to be in. That is why, as explained in the book, people can change their faces, or get a boob job, and still not feel different. They do not see themselves as this new person. They have not shifted from the self-loathing paradigm into the self-love paradigm.
In chapter three, the author asks you to set aside 30 minutes of your day to imagine you as this person you want to be. Not as a overconfident douchebag, but as someone that is operating in their life the way you wish you did. The idea is to picture yourself in those moments of life where you feel you fall short, imagine the smell, the way the light hits objects around you, the sounds in the background, and see yourself flowing through that situation with the grace you’ve wished you had.
I have dedicated myself to doing this and it’s fucking amazing. Give it a try. I promise, if you use some of the tools I’ve published, you will learn to look forward to it.
– The Curvy Broke Girl